Can love be bung?
Someone asked me the other day.. Love doctor, ( .. As they usually call me) can a person's love reduce? And What could possibly be the reason?
I answered, Well.. in as much as love grows, it can reduce and starts to die, eventually becomes weak and then remains weak if nothing is done to improve its state. I told her, people bung up love without knowing they do.
How can love be bung up? She asked again. i told her.. There are little things people do in relationships that might not be healthy for the relationship, things that don't matter in your mind, might do in his/hers.
Let me give you an example so you'll have an idea of what I'm talking about.
Let me give you an example so you'll have an idea of what I'm talking about.
Here's two people in relationship having a conversation ..
Tammy:
Before i met you, i use to like her a lot, (another girl) i was this close to asking her out before you came into my life..
The nest time you say the same thing and added..
Wow! She's still single and working close to me now, in fact she called me the other day and asked me to lunch..
You go on and on talking about this same person..
You might not have that in mind but this are words and humans are naturally jealous. If she can't fight it, she might as well give you the space you need so you can go do what you want to do cos you've said enough and unknowing to you it has entered her subconscious mind. And mind you, even if you (the man) don't have anything in mind, with time you'll start developing it cos that's how the human mind works. So it essential that we guide our minds and thoughts and not allow intruders in. Words are like seeds sown the moment you give it chance, it germinates.
Tammy:
Before i met you, i use to like her a lot, (another girl) i was this close to asking her out before you came into my life..
The nest time you say the same thing and added..
Wow! She's still single and working close to me now, in fact she called me the other day and asked me to lunch..
You go on and on talking about this same person..
You might not have that in mind but this are words and humans are naturally jealous. If she can't fight it, she might as well give you the space you need so you can go do what you want to do cos you've said enough and unknowing to you it has entered her subconscious mind. And mind you, even if you (the man) don't have anything in mind, with time you'll start developing it cos that's how the human mind works. So it essential that we guide our minds and thoughts and not allow intruders in. Words are like seeds sown the moment you give it chance, it germinates.
Tammy, starts to withdraw, starts to give you space..
It could be anything else but the subject is.. think on the words you say before you bring it out of your mouth. People have feelings and some don't know how to struggle between.
If you really have chosen her, then you will have to let 'others' go and stick to the one you've chosen. You made the choice for yourself, so stick!
It could be anything else but the subject is.. think on the words you say before you bring it out of your mouth. People have feelings and some don't know how to struggle between.
If you really have chosen her, then you will have to let 'others' go and stick to the one you've chosen. You made the choice for yourself, so stick!
There are many more issue's like that, we should watch for them and do the right thing to protect our love.. Remember, love is fragile, it should be protected and maintained, it could be the other way round.
Thank you for your time.
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